You Might Be a Narcissist If…is a book all about narcissism awareness. Narcissism, especially in its more subtle forms, is much more common than we may think and many of us have some of these characteristics. This book is filled with many interesting to read stories taken from the authors’ or their clients’ lives that clearly demonstrate examples of narcissists. A Narcissism Questionnaire and practical suggestions are given for dealing with narcissists whether it’s your spouse, a friend, a family member, a co-worker, or even yourself.

• Does narcissism run in the family?
• Are there different types of narcissism?
• What are the most common narcissistic traits?

Two psychotherapists and a psychiatrist with decades of both personal and professional experience with narcissism have teamed up to write the most practical, engaging, and helpful book on Narcissism to date. Click here to read their personal message.

and I was so absorbed with writing material for this narcissism book that I lost track of time and was late. So, my buddy made me promise to add, “You might be a narcissist if you are so busy writing a book on narcissism that you forget to pick up your friends
on time for a dinner date!” I hope this book will help us all see narcissism more clearly in others and ourselves.

At the same time, we do not want to make light of the serious devastation narcissists have inflicted on millions of people throughout history, including now, all around the world. We continually see numerous lives, marriages, families, even churches torn apart from the destructive forces of narcissism. However, what we know to be true is that it is a rare person who intentionally sets out to destroy his own life or the lives of
the people he loves. But until we each become more conscious of which attitudes, feelings, and behaviors inadvertently hurt ourselves or others, we tend to go on for years repeating the same patterns, communicating in the same ways, not setting healthy boundaries, and so on. Life can become utterly frustrating and exhausting!
When we know what the issues are, we can change. Some of us will take longer than others to change, and some of us will need therapy to change, but we all can change. It is invigorating to know that we don’t have to stay stuck, even if we’re not struggling with
narcissism. We can change the way we relate to the people who do struggle. Narcissistic character traits are very common. What we have come to see is that the more we are able to recognize and address these characteristics, the more we become truly free to love others as we love ourselves in healthy ways.

Over the years, we have found that many of our clients grew up in narcissistic homes. They don’t know that they did. They don’t know what is wrong with their lives. They initially don’t realize that they have continued to fill their lives with other narcissists, and this is why, no matter how hard they try, their relationships aren’t working. It’s because they haven’t known what they’re dealing with.

The great joy we have in our jobs is that once people can recognize the truth, they can begin to first get healthier themselves and then learn how to set healthier boundaries with others and initiate relationships with healthier people. These safer relationships provide them with the emotional energy they need in order to interact with the narcissists in their lives.

Our hope is that this book will put words to people’s experiences. In fact, that is why our clients have urged us to put our thoughts into writing. As they heal, they come across so many others who are struggling with the same issues.

We are grateful that our clients have let us share some of their stories with you. We have, of course, changed their names and identifying information, but we believe that their thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and experiences relating to narcissism will help us all be able to see the issue at hand more clearly. Let us begin.